December 30, 2011
In a Wall Street Journal article in July 2011, the author opined that “Having survived their own family splits, Generation X parents are determined to keep their marriages together.” As a child of divorce herself, the author vowed never to repeat her parents’ mistake. But, despite having lived together for 8 years before marriage and being married for 9 years, divorce they did. And they weren’t alone. The tabloids are filled with high profile break-ups from 2011: from the 72 day “marriage” of Kim Kardashian to the 6 year one for Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher. And how many more that don’t make the news?
Despite the attention and expense paid to weddings, not all unions fulfill their storybook promises. Rumor has it that the number of divorces in 2011 will be less per capita than in prior years. But tens of thousands of couples are still splitting up. And, like Susan Gregory Thomas, the author of the Wall Street Journal article, many of these couples want a “friendly divorce” — or at least not an acrimonious one. Her conclusion: Mediation provides a relatively inexpensive and nonadversarial divorce that allows parents who haven’t been able to “make it” in marriage, to still “make it” as parents.
So, my wish for 2012 is that if you have to separate and need to consider divorcing, choose a process that avoids contentious litigation. Choose mediation or Collaborative Practice — both utilizing experts who help couples problem-solve and design a better future for themselves and their children.
HERE’S WISHING A HAPPY AND PEACEFUL NEW YEAR TO ALL.
For more information about mediation and Collaborative Divorce, contact Risa A. Kleiner, Esq. at 609.951.2222 or firstname.lastname@example.org